San_Francisco_SeanFan
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Registered: 06/04/09
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| | 11/14/09 at 02:22 AM | Reply with quote | #1 |
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(Note to Sean or Shawn: feel free to change my username to just plain "Matthew" if you like. Not that I'm not a Sean Fan, it just seems simpler.  )
Hey, guys! Matthew from the August SF PSP here. It's great to be here. If you were at the PSP, mind either replying or PM'ing me with your real name? 'Cause apart from King Darko, Nightgaunt, ShawnK, Adam and Sean, I don't know who's who. 
If we haven't met, my basic life story is here, and I've got a fun post about an October bar approach here.
Let's cover the basics, then...
What I want
I want a serious relationship. I want a girl who's attractive, smart, independent, spirited, witty and blessed with joie de vivre. Someone who dreams big, is liberal, and has a girl-next-door, normal vibe. A girl who'll inspire me to be the best man I can be; a girl who'll inspire me to regularly check the local event listings to find new ways to delight and amuse her. And in return, I want her to fall in love with me, light up my world and, on occasion, slip on a Star Trek jumpsuit and call me her Captain. 
I'd like to meet this girl quite soon.
Here's the trouble:
In my "life story" post mentioned above, I discussed the fact that I'm living with my mother, and don't have a room of my own. (I also don't have a job at the moment, but I finally became certified to substitute in the State of California last week, and will be cleared to do so in SF by December 1 at the absolute latest, so I will be working soon.)
I've spent the bulk of this past week looking for digs. It ain't easy, because I'm trying my damnedest to find an affordable place in a nice area, with not only a decent room but decent kitchen/etc., and with roommates around my age... which, especially when you don't yet have a job, is something of a tall order in this town.
But I feel that I need the room before the girlfriend. As a man, I want to be able to provide a safe, wonderful space for her, with four walls and comfortable insides, a place where she'll be happy giving herself to me and vice versa. A practice spot for possible future cohabitation, and more.
What I'm not looking for
Hookups. Which isn't to say that I don't enjoy them if they happen to come my way: I went out with ShawnK on Halloween, met a sexy gal who invited me to her place (lucky break, as my living room couch would, especially in retrospect, have been terrible, assuming we even got there), and I made her enjoy that decision as much as I could. It was a nice evening, and I'm hoping for a few repeats, but unless I'm quite mistaken, she's not the girl described above. So if, in my single-dom future (with or without the room) I go out with some friends and a hookup ensues, splendid.
But I need that room to get what really want.  So I'm workin' on it.
Anyhow, hello again and looking forward to all the journals/stuff!
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San_Francisco_SeanFan
Guide on the Path...
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| | 11/23/09 at 03:52 AM | Reply with quote | #2 |
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Hey, guys! A quick update...
I finally found a room! It's nice and big, pretty stylish (from the early 1900s), gets lots of sunlight and comes with decent-to-cool housemates and a dog (!); I'll be moving in sometime this week. I don't know if I'll give up looking for an equally great place in the Mission (the Hispanic/hipster/core nightlife neighborhood), but if I didn't finally get a room by the end of the year my brain might just have spontaneously combusted. As a starter room, then, this will do very nicely. And I think that, especially once it's properly furnished, the chicks will love it, and that it can definitely serve the above-mentioned territorial purpose.
(I also will also, without question, be cleared to substitute teach in SF starting on the 1st, so things are finally coming together.)
I've also signed up for Hristiyan's December workshop after being more or less convinced, during an intimate event in which only one other guest showed up see H and his sidekick Mike, that I might have overstated my opposition to hookups, and in any case, could use a good deal more skill in attracting women. I was won over in large part by Sean's testimony and King Darko's personal recommendation, so I'll for sure let you guys know how it goes.
As for a mantra, I've been doing temp work all week and haven't had time to give it too much thought, but I did come up with the foundation of one, with help from H and Co. the other evening, under a fair bit of in-the-moment pressure:
I will develop the ability to make meaningful emotional and sexual connections excellent and attractive women.
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San_Francisco_SeanFan
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| | 12/18/09 at 04:44 AM | Reply with quote | #3 |
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Another quick update... after a behind-schedule maintenance painting, I have finally begun renting and moving into my room, and I've also been finally, totally cleared to begin accepting substituting gigs. Progress!
As for the Hristiyan workshop, well, it was pretty solid, as Sean has said. I do feel that I made progress expressing my feelings and desires to women in a positive, mutually pleasant way. And now the real work of putting these skills and lessons to the test shall begin. Stay tuned...
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San_Francisco_SeanFan
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| | 12/29/09 at 03:49 AM | Reply with quote | #4 |
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More news: I've finally started sleeping in my new room, which is shaping up to be a pretty nice one. And I yesterday acquired a second pillow, meaning that, for the first time since leaving college in May (only now much more so), I'm ready for anything, if you take my drift!
My only remaining grandparent is in town until Thursday morning, but I plan to party it up on New Year's Eve, confident and joyful in the knowledge that I've got a great space to bring a new friend to, should that occur... and then it'll be 2010, I'll be free to set my own schedule, and generally conquer the world! Or at least the San Franciscan peninsula.
Happy New Year's to all!
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San_Francisco_SeanFan
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| | 01/13/10 at 01:59 AM | Reply with quote | #5 |
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A noteworthy day! I finally was able to work my first day as a substitute today, after beginning the whole application process last August. While it remains to be seen how much work this will offer, and thus also whether or not it'll be sufficient to keep my afloat in this beautiful but pricey town, at least I've finally started.
The room's looking nicer every day; I've got a fun mini-couch, washed the windows to a sparkling shine, and will be getting curtains in the next few days. I haven't yet had the chance to go out and possibly invite women in, but I'm making incremental progress all the time...
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San_Francisco_SeanFan
Guide on the Path...
Registered: 06/04/09
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| | 02/01/10 at 03:33 AM | Reply with quote | #6 |
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Well, my first full month of living independently (with flatmates) in SF is at a close, and it's been great. I've been to parties, been bar-hopping, brought a date home and shared a totally surreal, beyond-wild evening with a beautiful woman. And for these successes I must give due props to Sean, Shawn, Hristiyan, Tiny, and the rest of the community, including but not limited to Andrew and Nightgaunt. I've definitely made progress since last summer's PSP. So, thanks, everyone!
Now that I've got a solid base, a number of pals and semi-regular employment, I'll be working on building up some real local friendships, figuring out exactly what I want from life and work in general this year, getting serious about my art (screenwriting), and looking to date some more... I'm still underemployed in a tough city for finding work, blessed with plenty of students loan debts and working on getting through various mental blocks, but I'm gonna muscle through it all, and come out the better for it.
Man, I love this town. It's exciting!
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