PillowFire
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So, if you guy's remember I posted about the smallest of problems and my every encounter in tons of detail. I decided after my last thread about a girl on the bus to just stop and see where I can go on my own. Since then, I had gotten a strange set of messages from an unknown number after school. Somewhat sexual and also a bit creepy because I had no clue who it was. It eventually turned out to be a girl named Amber. I don't really remember her and to this day do not know how she got my number. Since then though, we kicked off great. Been making out in the hallways during lunch every other day and I've been getting my hand down her pants with ease. She get's wet no problem. First time I did that, I actually thought I was rubbing her vagina, and only later realized that the actual opening was much lower than where I was at. I don't think she realized this. Of course, texting got canceled because of her since she sent like 5 copies of the same text and ran up a huge bill unknowingly.
So it was a big learning experience for me the whole way. I even told her I was a virgin, that I was learning with her, and joked around about her teaching me and stuff. She lives 30 min away and strict parents because they found out she had sex at a party. It's not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and she has other guys. I'm not needy so we just have fun and that's all. She used to text me "hey sexy" every morning and I honestly was not used to being called sexy by girls until then.
After that things only got crazier. Besides her having some sort of biting fetish (she bit my neck during one session and I had to put a stop to it so there wouldn't be any marks), I got closer with another, asian girly. These girls are not what I would consider to be gorgeous, but they are cute, and I feel attracted enough to them, where as before I was not getting any girls period, or only insecure/fat ones (when I say get, I mean attraction from...if I can even call it that). So I have kissed the other girl too on an occassion. When we all have the same lunch period they literally wait outside the particular bathroom I go to after class for me.
On my other lunch period, I couldn't find a seat one day with my buddy, so we randomly sat next to some girls. Some of them were also cute. Now, we sit there all the time and we are all close buddies and I can tell at least several girls I could make out with. I kissed one of them at an anime-club party last friday, and another just basically get physical with all lunch. I play with her hands, grope her ass, pull her in close, sit her on my lap at contextually opportune moments. She absolutely doesn't offer any resistance. Short red hair that covers her right eye. Because I know to look in that eye for emotional effect, I make it a point to sometimes brush her hair out of her eye and just gaze 
Another friend, similar story. At anime club party though, I really began to realize what was happening when pretty much every girl there (even though they weren't all that hot) were getting physical with me and I did the same with them. I grabbed at least 5 different girls breasts during that entire time. I would wait for a spot to play some Super Smash Bros. Brawl with my buddies, and just go outside and do whatever I wanted. Pin one against a wall and grope her. Grope another. One girl actually literally confessed she was a virgin, stole my prop sword, hat, etc. (I was dressed as a pirate) just to lure me outside and into isolation. These chicks took turns sitting on my lap. One was on my lap in the back of the room away from the rest of the party where it was dark, and this other girl comes up and says to her "You are sooo lucky right now." Although this girl had large, squishy breasts, when I got her against the wall outside playfully she went full on freak. Insta-french kiss. Had to break out and go wash the saliva from my face at the water fountain.
One day before, one of the girls at the lunch table and her pretty cute friend with wonderful boobs were with me for awhile outside, and by the time we all left, we ended up waiting together for our rides behind a concrete wall. Totally blocked off from other people's view. I just sat there and gropped their boobs non-stop the entire time. Kissed one girl, other turned out to be bi and we couldn't really coerce her into kissing me (the first girl was literally convincing her friend to kiss me-wonderful!) I couldn't be assed to really try either lol.
Next day (the day of the party after school) I come into my second class and this black girl I know on the cheerleading team (we go back many years back to middle school as acquaintances, not really too friendly) starts questioning me about what I was doing with my "two girlfriends" outside groping their boobs. I didn't realize there was a window through which she saw it.
Long winded as hell, so I'll stop now. This basically sums it all up. I am not taking groping and kissing as pretty standard, but I still feel as if I am doing something wrong because I have this nagging feeling as if some of these girls are not really into me. But yet they are totally passive to what I do. Maybe I am just not used to this whole thing and cannot trust that it's true. I expect girls to be super happy if they are with someone they like and it just doesn't feel like that with some of them. I also look for dilated pupils as a sign of being turned on and again feel a bit bad when I notice the girl's pupils are not dilated. I know, seems a bit silly but this is the type of stuff I am getting worried about. Probably all in my head.
I want to get more girls in my social circle. Hot ones. At this point I am not really trying for them. I constantly feel as if the dudes who chat with these girls are super cool and approaching them would just make me look creepy.
What should I be doing at this point? Am I going the right way, wrong way?
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What.
Do.
You.
Want?
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PillowFire
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Wondering if this is the way it's supposed to go, or if maybe I am doing something wrong here. I mean, none of this goes anywhere. It's just fun times at school and that's all. How do I translate all of this into actually getting myself a beautiful, smart girlfriend and not just groping girls? How do I approach a girl that I actually might like if cold approaches are not the way to go, and if I don't have a social circle that includes such "bombshell" girls?
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Quote: Originally Posted by PillowFire
Wondering if this is the way it's supposed to go, or if maybe I am doing something wrong here.
Still can't help ya bro. You're not telling me what you want. How is anyone supposed to know if you're on track if we don't know where you're going?
If all you're after is a bunch of make out sessions and groping girls, then I'd say you're doing just fine. If you want a lasting relationship with a wonderful girl that is in Love with you, you're way off track.
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I mean, none of this goes anywhere. It's just fun times at school and that's all. How do I translate all of this into actually getting myself a beautiful, smart girlfriend and not just groping girls?
How do I approach a girl that I actually might like if cold approaches are not the way to go, and if I don't have a social circle that includes such "bombshell" girls?
Still not getting there.
The way you interact with people, from first approach to talking to going out to sleeping with each other...is all based on what you're looking for. The way you talk to women, touch them, look at them, ALL comes from what you're intentions with them are.
You gotta name it before you can claim it. So, again I ask...What do you want??
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From what I can tell, it seems like you're just having fun. Which is fine and dandy, but what I'm worried about is the opinion these girls have of you and the way you're coming off to everyone around you. As long as you're not going around bragging about it to everyone and flaunting it, then your all good. It really seems to me that all this 'action' your getting is simply fun and games especially since its high school. No one can really advise you if you don't what you want or where you're going with this.
All I can say is have fun, but don't be an ass about it. Remember for gentlemen, what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Keep things open with all these girls and do not lead any of them on. Eventually you'll find out what you really looking for.
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I don't flaunt. When people sometimes ask me about it I pretty much downplay it or change the subject.
Matt is right. I really have no clue what I'm after to be honest. Maybe I have a concept formed in my mind, an ideal, to have some stunning girlfriend with a genuine, mutual like. But I am not actually driven by this in any situations. It's all entirely spontaneous.
So, establishing this, what is the best thing to do when I see a great girl I want to get to know if no Puah style approaches are allowed.
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Quote: Originally Posted by PillowFire
So, establishing this, what is the best thing to do when I see a great girl I want to get to know if no Puah style approaches are allowed. 
do you want a lasting relationship? a fling? one night stand? grope session? fuck buddy? casual dating? a friend? someone to talk to? a friendly conversation?
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Fuck Buddy would be nice. I am not looking for any serious relationships and all the drama associate with them. Just female company with whom I can get sexual if I wanted to.
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Sounds like your best bet would be a fling or casual dating. Fuck buddy never goes well, someone always gets hurt. One night/grope session are for the most the same and aren't as good. It definitely doesn't sound like you want a relationship, so again either fling or casual dating are your best bet.
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Mmk. So what must be done for this? I feel I should back off the groping and focus more on other things. As of now my grades are A's and one B, but I want to start learning some serious stuff and possibly try to build things in my spare time like a Coil Gun or the like.
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If all you're looking for is sex with no strings attached...good luck finding a girl who feels the same way...
It's fine to want just that. No harm there. SHE has to also be looking for that as well. So now that you know what you're after, you're radar will be tuned into girls who are after the same.
Be upfront and honest about what you're after. You want to get to know her, sleep with her, and see where things go but nothing serious. If she's up for it she'll play along.
Good luck.
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Right, well I am at a loss as to how to get girls to do something after school. I try to get chick's to go with me to see movies I would see anyways, with or without them, and I try to organize meet ups after school. But it just does not work out.
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they probably dont trust you, which is understandble considering the way you act around the girls
Take it from someone with similar experience, you just look like a player, all the girls Know it, your hard to trust.
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You don't know what you want.
And the girls don't trust you for it.
Maturity in a relationship comes from the two people understanding what the other wants. And she's not going to try and read minds.
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You know what, you may be right. I first started out after I had a rather loser-ish obsession with one girl last year. Rather, it was two weeks into school, my friends told me she liked me (cute blond that just moved into the area) I went around trying to figure out what to say, periodically coming up and saying, "What do you do in your free time" Before slithering back into the crowd after her simple one-word answer. I felt like an idiot when I realized my friends were really just pulling my leg. I felt pissed. It motivated me to do something and find an answer. Found the community via google, read stuff, eventually found RSD, then found this site. Now, I am much more confident in myself and can tell a lot more about a situation (As well as make a move rather than waiting for someone else to do it for me) and I laugh about what happened with that one girl. She dyed her hair brunette from the awesome blond color since then.
Anyways, point is that this "fooling around" is just my sex drive talking. I am not really after anything except being pulled forth by my dick to just lay hands on girls. And that works out because I am pretty good at accomplishing it with practice.
So, I gotta either cut the shit, or find a real purpose.
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Quote: Originally Posted by PillowFire
So, I gotta either cut the shit, or find a real purpose.
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